If you're scared that if you leave, he'll get sober - and then you'll wish you hadn't left.
If you are separated and your anger has cooled and you miss him.
Did any of the above sound like someone you know? If so, than read this book. You will also find a special section by David Evans, Esq., Chair of the Alcoholism and Drug Law Reform Committee of the American Bar Association. He answers your legal questions about divorce, protection of children, and court-ordered evaluations and interventions. *Review* "Toby Rice Drews has done it again! With the magic of her story-telling, she has produced a work of profound significance and help for millions. Her wisdom sheds revealing light on the problems of every family member. This book is of immense value." ~ Maxwell N. Weisman, M.D., Past President, American Society of Addiction Medicine Faculty, Department of Psychiatry, Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine
Review: Hi Toby,
Your work saved my life. I went to Alanon, read everything I could get my hands on, poured myself into fixing myself, went to Betty Ford Family Program (while my very high functioning alcoholic husband stayed behind because after all, he wasn't the problem, he and his family insisted that the problem was that my mother was alcoholic, making me overly sensitive). It seemed the more I did to "fix" myself, the worse I felt and the more empowered he became. Your work is the only thing that I have come across to date that addresses (head on) what many other otherwise wonderful programs and perspectives do not.... the head, heart, and gut of the crazy making. I originally read your materials to try and save my marriage. In the end, I saved myself and am free of a very toxic life. I passed your books on to a good friend and she credits your work to saving herself which resulted in her alcoholic husband getting sober. It has been a joy to watch them heal over the years.
My 16 year old daughter is now struggling to navigate her father's crazy making. She is not a substance user, sees it for what it is and has distanced herself from him. But she is frustrated, hurt, and angry.